How often have you said you love your car, your dog, or even your neighbor’s apple pie? But when was the last time you said, I love myself? I’m not talking about an ego driven love. I’m talking about heart felt reassurance of love for yourself.
Think of all you have been through this year alone. Don’t you need to appreciate how well you have navigated these challenges? Even if you think you didn’t do anything well, you can still love yourself.
Why is it so hard to come right out and tell ourselves how much we love ourselves. Are we afraid we are going to reject ourselves? What’s not to love? We are doing the best we can given the circumstances. This isn’t about boosting our ego, if it were then it isn’t love.
With these thoughts in mind a conversation with my Inner Voice about loving ourselves may be beneficial. My questions will be in italics for clarity.
Why is it so difficult to tell ourselves we love ourselves?
There is a fear that telling yourself you love yourself is boosting the fragile ego. This is not the case. Think of the power in your words, how often have you brought comfort to someone who needs it. Your words were soothing because they were true and originated from the heart. It is easy to speak kind words to others, yet speaking kindly to oneself may be a challenge. Why? Because often you judge yourself on the unrealistic standards society places on you. Or you judge yourself because of a false belief that has no truth or compassion. To truly love another, you must first love yourself.
So we feel we are not good enough to tell ourselves we love ourselves?
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you see your faults? Your failures? Your insecurities? Or do you see the light of all creation in your eyes? Do you see the miracle in being able to see yourself in the mirror? Within you is a never-ending flow of love that has no boundaries, or limitations. You are this love, this love is you. There is no separation between you and this love.
If you are not experiencing this love it may be because you believe many of the false beliefs you have been taught about yourself and this love. When you dig down through your fears, your self-doubt, the person you created to please others, you will discover this flow of self-love. To awaken this love, look in the mirror and tell yourself, you love yourself.
For many of us we were never taught to love ourselves.
It is never too late to teach yourself to love yourself. One of the benefits of loving yourself is your physical body hears and feels these words of love, and will respond with improved health, both mentally and physically. Teach yourself to repeat words of self-love any time but especially when you feel yourself slipping into self-doubt, or negativity about your current life situation.
It seems odd we have to tell ourselves we love ourselves.
It seems odd because it has not become a part of your self-care routine. People will meditate, do yoga, run, read, ride a bicycle, lots of things believed to improve their emotional and physical health but they will never say they love themselves to themselves. All your self-care will be of no value if you cannot look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you love yourself.
What do we do if the words get stuck in our throat?
If your loving words get stuck in your throat, it is be because you may not believe these words of self-love. If this happens, you will know that you must hear these words and repeat them until you have silenced the negative self-talk that wants to deny you of this love. Speaking words of love to yourself will give you the courage to make the necessary changes in your life that will allow you to experience this endless flow of self-love. To love yourself, is the greatest gift you can give yourself, and the world around you.
Have you told yourself you love yourself today? Let me know what you think, leave a comment or a question below. I’m always interested in hearing from you.
Each week I email a conversation with my Inner Voice to those who have subscribed. This week we discuss intuition. Here is an excerpt.
What is the role of intuition in our lives?
Intuition is an engrained source of guidance found within every being on Earth. No being is without a source of intuition. The role of intuition is to keep you safe and healthy, yet it also is a source of guidance for every choice you make in your daily lives.
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