How often do we think that our true happiness is fleeting, far away, or something we can never attain? When we do experience this level of happiness it seems to slip away quickly, then do we begin to believe we do not deserve our own true happiness? Do we wait for all the parts and pieces of life to fall into place before we can allow ourselves to be truly happy? Thinking that when we have money, fame, or time, we will be happy?
What does it mean to be truly happy? Is it in the things we own? Will it be found in the behavior of others? Are we trying to force the world around us into a certain shape that will then fit nicely into our definition of happiness? Are we truly happy now?
With these questions in mind, a conversation with my Inner Voice may add some clarity to the seemingly never-ending quest for true happiness. My questions will be in italics for clarity.
Why is our true happiness so elusive?
Many people will place the needs and wants of others ahead of their own. They believe that self-sacrifice is the path to true happiness. They fail to realize that in time this may cause a level of bitterness within them. Their intention was to be happy through the success of others, yet sacrificing their happiness was the price they had to pay.
Other times people will ask others to change who they are so they will be pleased with them. The thinking is that if others behave in an agreeable way then it will be easier to be happy. Unknown to them is that no person can ever change enough to truly make another person happy all the time.
At times the world can be a challenging place, and this will impact our happiness. What then?
The way you react to the challenging world will impact your life more than the events of the world. Your behavior is a choice. If you choose to become angry with what you see going on in the world, then you have allowed your anger to separate you from your true happiness. This does not take away the significance of the events around you.
When you choose to remain in a positive frame of mind, you have the ability to tap into the wisdom of your inner guidance. This guidance will allow you to make choices based on what will keep you in a steady state of happiness. People think that true happiness is always laughing and smiling. In most cases this is true, but most of the time true happiness allows you to remain centered while others are struggling with events they have no control over. True happiness is a state of mind that allows you to see the world with a positive point of view. If something negative happens, being truly happy helps you stay centered and true to yourself.
How will we know if we are living a life of true happiness?
Look within and ask if your life has lasting meaning. Are you moving from one emotion to another without experiencing any inner peace? True happiness will not be found in the physical possessions you have obtained through the course of life. True happiness is a heart driven emotion that says that all you can be is founded in love. The life you desire will be rooted in love. True happiness cannot be found if you are not loving, kind or compassionate. If you lack these three powerful emotions you distance yourself from being truly happy.
When you are loving, kind and compassionate, you will not be asking others to change who they are to please you. You will also know the power of forgiveness and how forgiveness is part of the foundation needed to reach a state of true happiness. You cannot be angry or judgmental, and think you are truly happy. Most of the time judgement is a way to make yourself feel better about yourself. If you are truly happy with yourself and your life, there will be no need to judge others.
Is true happiness even attainable?
True happiness comes from recognizing the emotional roadblocks you have placed in your way. It requires you to be fully responsible for your thoughts, words, and actions. Once you take responsibility for how you react to the world, the world no longer controls you. You are now able to experience true happiness because you have chosen to make your life your responsibility.
Our true happiness is our responsibility. Let me know what you think. Leave a comment or a question in the space below or email me at email@example.com. I’m always open to exploring the subject further.
Each week I email a newsletter/article to those who have subscribed to my weekly. This week we discuss trust. Here is an excerpt.
Why is it hard to trust ourselves?
From an early age, children have been taught to seek the wisdom of those around them when it comes to the challenges they face. They are not taught to trust themselves, because oftentimes their choices do not fall in line with what the adults in their lives feel is true or right.
If they are taught to trust themselves and their choices do not work out as they had planned, they will begin to doubt themselves, making it less likely for them to trust themselves in the future.
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