Getting Out of Our Own Way


Have we ever stopped to notice if we are getting in our own way? Maybe not physically, but emotionally, and spiritually. It can be easy to fall into the trap of believing our false beliefs, our negative self-talk, or the negative opinions of others. At times these thoughts seem to have free rein in our mind, causing us to doubt ourselves, to the extent of keeping us from pursuing a dream, or goal.

Why is it that oftentimes we may be our own worst enemy? Is it because we don’t trust ourselves with making the right choices? Or is it because we are too afraid of failure so we choose not to begin, or recognize our true potential? What would happen if we found the courage to challenge this way of life, and got out of our own way? How would our lives shift if we silenced our negative mental chatter, and began to put one foot in front of the other, directing our lives in the way we want to live?

With these thoughts in mind a conversation with my Inner Voice may help us get out of our own way, and begin to seek the life that is true and right for us. My questions will be in italics.


Why do we get in our own way?

There can be much self-doubt in the human experience. This self-doubt has had many years to grow in strength to a point where you believe these false truths. Although you may believe you could live a better life, you choose not to because there may be many unknowns on the journey ahead.

Are there other ways we get in our own way?

There are unlimited possibilities available to everyone. Yet an overinflated sense of oneself can limit the available options. If a person sees themselves as above, or better than others, their judgement will hinder their ability to see beyond their own self. In behaving this way, they are their own worst enemy, yet they may blame others for the way their world is unfolding.

Does this mean that being humble will help us on our journey to realize our true potential?

Humility is a strength, not a weakness as many people believe. When a person is humble, they know themselves better than others who brag, may know themselves. Those who are humble also know that there is no need to judge others, because they realize that judgement can be a powerful roadblock on the path to knowing one’s true self.

Would any negative thought, word, or action cause us to get in our own way?

Negativity, similar to judgement, will keep a person from moving forward in a positive direction. People will often justify their negativity because negativity can give a person a false sense of purpose. They are stuck in their own way and through their negativity, they blame others for their current situation. Also, negativity can give a person an emotional boost, because they justify their behavior by pointing out the problems of others, or the world around them, thereby ignoring their responsibility for their own lives.

How can we overcome the trap of getting in our own way?

Learn to silence the negative thoughts in the mind, by replacing them with more positive, loving thoughts. This will clear away the negativity surrounding your life. Also, understand that everyone is doing the best they can, even you, given the current circumstances. This realization will release the need to judge, or criticize others.

It may take courage, but ask yourself, if your behavior is helping, or hindering the situation. This will require an elevated level of honesty, because it may be easier to tell yourself that it is the fault of others, and you bear little, to no responsibility.

Any final thoughts on getting in our own way?

Your life will unfold based on how you react to life. If you choose to become angry, or upset, you have chosen to allow life to control you emotionally. Yet when you choose to remain centered and focused on a positive outcome, you will be allowing life to unfold as it should, while at the same time you will be getting out of your own way.\


Are we our own roadblock to the success we desire?

Let me know what you think. Leave a comment or a question below, I’m always open to exploring the conversation further.

On April 26th, from 6-7:00 M.T. I’ll be doing an Author Reading of my book, “Your Inner Guidance, The Path to Discovering Your True Happiness” through the Salida Library. I’ll post the Zoom link here, on my website, and on my social media pages. Hope to see you there.

Each week I email a conversation with my Inner Voice to those who have subscribed, This week we discuss being emotionally flexible. Here is an excerpt.

Is being flexible to the changes of life important, or are we just getting pushed around by life?

To be flexible in life is to make the best choices—for your desired outcome—based  on the information you have at the time; then adjusting your course of action when new information is gained.

To read this article, or receive these weekly conversations, scroll to the bottom of the page where you will find a place to do so.

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Thank you for taking the time to read this post, I appreciate your support.

Peace and well-being


Copyright Paul Hudon 2021


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