The Words We Speak


How often have we stopped to listen to the words we speak to ourselves? When I was a carpenter, if I made a mistake, I’d call myself all kinds of unkind words. This didn’t make me feel any better about making a mistake.


Why did I feel I needed to behave this way? Is it because we believe self-criticism will make us a better person? I’m not sure I felt better after the words I used to describe myself when I would screw something up.


What is the root of this behavior? Could it be that we have been criticized for so long in our lives we do not know any other way? What if, instead of criticizing ourselves, we looked for the positive lessons in our mistakes? Thereby learning a much needed lesson instead of feeling bad for the way we handled a situation.


It can be disheartening when we forget an appointment, say the wrong thing at the wrong time, or cut a board an incorrect length. But in each of these cases there can be lessons that may benefit us in the future.


One of the things we forget when we spew a wrath of negativity towards ourselves, is how damaging these words can be to our emotional health. We may think they are only words without much impact yet this is not always the case.


I once heard of a scientist from Japan, Dr. Masaru Emoto, who did an experiment that had amazing results. Dr. Emoto would write words on the outside of a bottle filled with water. He would freeze the water and then examine the frozen water crystals under a microscope. He discovered that the water froze differently when the words were positive or negative. The ice crystals from the bottle with the word love written on it were different than the ice crystals from the bottle with the word hate written on it.


What’s really surprising about this experiment is words like love, happiness, appreciation, produced beautiful ice crystals. While negative words like hate and many others, produced ice crystals that were not beautiful at all and were unlike any he had ever seen before.


If a word written on the side of a bottle can affect the way ice crystals form, what about the words we say to ourselves? Isn’t the human body about 60% +/- water? If this is the case then how do our negative words affect us?


It would seem a constant diet of negative words would impact our health in an adverse way. Remember, these are words Dr. Emoto wrote on the side of a bottle, no one had to say the word for the water to freeze a certain way.


This would mean that all we have to do is think a negative or degrading word for it to have an ill effect on our health. To speak a negative word, we first have to think the negative word. This is a double whammy! By behaving this way we are adding tremendous energy to the negativity our body has to process.


With these thoughts in mind it may cause us to reconsider the words we speak to ourselves when we make a mistake. Rather than dive deep into negativity, we may take a step back and ask, “What can I learn from this experience?” This will help keep us in a positive frame of mind, allowing positive energy to flow through our body.


The next time we get upset at ourselves for doing something wrong, think of how our negativity may be harming our health. It may take focus at first, but in a short amount of time we will have rewired our ability to respond to a crisis or a mistake, with kindness and love. Thereby creating a healthier life.


Will we be more aware of the impact negative words have on our health, and the health of those around us?


Let me know what you think, I’m always open to exploring the subject further. Leave a comment or question below, or email me at I’d enjoy hearing from you.


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